It gets better as soon as you stop attending :) I decided we'd go to the Memorial and then I went to the Special Talk at another hall. My teen a daughter hasn't been all year. No one has even checked on us, except to ask for our time a few months ago. It may hurt you now, but the sooner you accept "the friends" are only friends with your belief system, the sooner you'll let grand move on.
adamah, your comment explained so much to me about my family dynamics. Thank you so so much. Paralysis of analysis - love it.